This Is Our Experience

This year I decided to cut ties with a few people. I began to realize how insignificant these relationships were and how they no longer align with who I am, or who I'm becoming. Of course, the human in me loves the human in others, and I do appreciate the experiences I've shared with people that I have connected with.. but when it's time to leave, it's time to leave.   Some of the reasons why I stopped giving people access to me Being taken for granted People getting comfortable coming in and out of my life as they choose Connections that feel meaningless Connections built on weak or superficial foundations Boundaries not being respected or taken seriously Un-equal exchange of energy (Pouring into people, but not being poured back into) Feeling drained after interactions I think I've always noticed these things, but as of lately, it's been more prominent to me. When you're always available to people who don't appreciate you, you are doing a huge disservi...

Many women think that bossing up after a break up means to get a new man, look cute, take trips with the girls, etc. Although I believe these things help 100 percent, I've also found other really important ways to boss up after a break up. Disappear Completely. Change your number, deactivate your social media accounts for a bit, block his email, move to a new city. In a nutshell, vanish! This helps you prove to yourself that you don't even care to show him the new and improved you. He doesn't need to know you have a new boo, a better job, or that your skin cleared up and you look stunning. It's none of his business! Don't give him the pleasure of being able to get updates on your new life without him. You are not doing this for him, you are doing this for you. You did enough proving yourself during the relationship. You don't have to prove a damn thing to him now. Let him feel your absence! 😎 Don't be sad for too long Everything points us towa...

When you are ready to choose happiness, you have to be ready to let go of EVERYTHING and EVERYONE who no longer serve you. This can be easy or hard, it depends on what you believe. Letting go of my ex felt like torture. I was a slave to familiarity and comfortability.  I was an introvert with little to no friends, so I convinced myself for a  long  time that he was all I had. He was my quick fix, but I knew that long term, we would end up in a disastrous situation.  I mustard up all the courage and self discipline I had in me, and walked away from him. You would think that anything toxic would be easy to walk away from... Lack of self love will have you settling for  anything. Many people stay in situations, jobs and relationships that they aren't happy in. I look at it like this, everybody is always talking about how "life is short", so what sense does it make to spend any amount of time putting energy into things that don't make us feel good? Don't...