For her: "Boss up" after break up 💔

Many women think that bossing up after a break up means to get a new man, look cute, take trips with the girls, etc. Although I believe these things help 100 percent, I've also found other really important ways to boss up after a break up.

Disappear

Completely. Change your number, deactivate your social media accounts for a bit, block his email, move to a new city. In a nutshell, vanish! This helps you prove to yourself that you don't even care to show him the new and improved you. He doesn't need to know you have a new boo, a better job, or that your skin cleared up and you look stunning. It's none of his business! Don't give him the pleasure of being able to get updates on your new life without him. You are not doing this for him, you are doing this for you. You did enough proving yourself during the relationship. You don't have to prove a damn thing to him now. Let him feel your absence! 😎

Don't be sad for too long

Everything points us towards being sad and depressed after a break up. TV shows, music, movies, it's almost like they encourage us to feel like crap. After you cry about it, put the facts on the table. Keep it short and simple. It didn't work, it was nice while it lasted, it's time to move. I would dwell on my break up for so long, it drove me nuts! Constantly ruminating on the lies and the cheating, wishing I would've left sooner, I ended up creating a terrible habit. I created a new thinking pattern. Wake up, think about him. Sit down to eat, think about him. Get in bed, think about him. 

It's okay to be upset. You are human. But don't drag it out longer than you need to. You are strong, beautiful and powerful. It's unfair to let yourself be miserable. You should be celebrating!

Know that someone perfect is coming

Yes I said perfect. Perfect for me may not be perfect for you and vice versa, but the partner of your dreams will be perfect for you. Keeping your heart open for love is a major boss up. You're not sitting around hopeless and scorned. You are aware that there are billions of people in the world and one of them will come along and love, respect, and care for you. Imagine loving someone with all your heart and they reciprocate it. Sounds heavenly, doesn't it? 💕