This Is Our Experience

This year I decided to cut ties with a few people. I began to realize how insignificant these relationships were and how they no longer align with who I am, or who I'm becoming. Of course, the human in me loves the human in others, and I do appreciate the experiences I've shared with people that I have connected with.. but when it's time to leave, it's time to leave.   Some of the reasons why I stopped giving people access to me Being taken for granted People getting comfortable coming in and out of my life as they choose Connections that feel meaningless Connections built on weak or superficial foundations Boundaries not being respected or taken seriously Un-equal exchange of energy (Pouring into people, but not being poured back into) Feeling drained after interactions I think I've always noticed these things, but as of lately, it's been more prominent to me. When you're always available to people who don't appreciate you, you are doing a huge disservi...

When we have repetitive experiences,  our minds begin to believe that we will always get certain results in certain situations.  For example, if you continuously apply for jobs, but the employers never call you back, most likely you will start to believe that you have "bad luck" regarding employment. You might become discouraged and stop filling out job applications all together. "Faith" is a term that I became familiar with when I started to attend church. Although that was almost a decade ago and I no longer attend church,  I never let go of the concept of faith. I have faith in my ability to create the life I want.  Learn how to detach from outcomes. Try not to be too specific, but instead,  be flexible about how and when you will recieve your desires. For example if you decide you want an extra $500, don't say "I want to win the lottery on blank date". When you do this, you are creating limitations. Remember, possibilities are endless! Yo...

I grew up in a household where emotions weren't expressed. Actually, anger was expressed at times, but softer emotions were practically non-existent. My parents didn't know how (or didn't have the patience) to validate my feelings, so anytime I tried to convey how I felt, I was dismissed. Consequently, I had trouble being vocal and I carried this into my adulthood. Disclaimer: (I am not a mute lol! I am extremely talkative around people I know. I have an introvert personality.) Early school life I still remember the looks on my 1st grade teachers faces when my 6 year old self told them I wanted to be a novelist When I grew up. I would write tons of short stories, created my own little magazines, and I communicated best through writing notes. Friends I found myself unknowingly gravitating towards people who were carefree, opinionated and verbally expressive. I admired these characteristics. I was the "shy" friend. I felt most comfortable communicating wit...

I absolutely love listening to people talk about their problems (I'm not even being sarcastic). Many people face the same problem, and that is caring way too much about how others perceive them. People internalize everything other people say to them, say about them, or even the things they think   people are thinking of them! Here are some of my thoughts about this "problem". 1. Why would you let someone tell you about yourself, when a lot of these folks don't even know who THEY are?? 2. No matter how rich, poor, attractive, unattractive, popular or unpopular you are, someone will have something to say about you. 3. The only person you need to impress is YOU! 4. We live in an opinionated society. Some people have nothing better to do than gossip. 5. Don't feel angry, feel honored. 6. This is YOUR life to live. You're not a puppet. 7. Standing in your truth inspires people to stand in theirs. 8. Own EVERYTHING about you, even your embarrassing moments...

You don't have to search for reasons to be happy. You don't have to compare your life to others.  You don't have to dwell on what you have or haven't done. You can simply just choose to be happy.  Right now in this present moment,  give your self permission to feel happiness and bliss throughout your whole body. Block out any thought that does not make you feel happy.  This is such a powerful frequency to be in. You can manifest quickly in this state as well!

Sometimes, we might meet a person, find them attractive, funny and smart, and automatically want a romantic relationship with them. Only to realize later, after much trial and error, that this person is not "relationship material". This happens with friends, family, business partners, etc. Upon meeting people, we have to really get to know them. That means allow them to come as they are. No interference. No assumptions. No expectations. Let people be exactly who they are. If they are the type of person you wouldn't mind having in your life, you can choose to allow them in. Just because a person may have some characteristics that you want in a partner, does not always make them qualified to be your partner. The better you get at assigning people the right roles in your life, the better you can connect with people. You'll look back and think, "If only I had known that the guy I was seeing a few months ago was better off as a business partner, we would probabl...

Here's a video I've come across about healing yourself with the power of thought. Click Here , enjoy and remember to keep an open mind!

Many women think that bossing up after a break up means to get a new man, look cute, take trips with the girls, etc. Although I believe these things help 100 percent, I've also found other really important ways to boss up after a break up. Disappear Completely. Change your number, deactivate your social media accounts for a bit, block his email, move to a new city. In a nutshell, vanish! This helps you prove to yourself that you don't even care to show him the new and improved you. He doesn't need to know you have a new boo, a better job, or that your skin cleared up and you look stunning. It's none of his business! Don't give him the pleasure of being able to get updates on your new life without him. You are not doing this for him, you are doing this for you. You did enough proving yourself during the relationship. You don't have to prove a damn thing to him now. Let him feel your absence! 😎 Don't be sad for too long Everything points us towa...

When you are ready to choose happiness, you have to be ready to let go of EVERYTHING and EVERYONE who no longer serve you. This can be easy or hard, it depends on what you believe. Letting go of my ex felt like torture. I was a slave to familiarity and comfortability.  I was an introvert with little to no friends, so I convinced myself for a  long  time that he was all I had. He was my quick fix, but I knew that long term, we would end up in a disastrous situation.  I mustard up all the courage and self discipline I had in me, and walked away from him. You would think that anything toxic would be easy to walk away from... Lack of self love will have you settling for  anything. Many people stay in situations, jobs and relationships that they aren't happy in. I look at it like this, everybody is always talking about how "life is short", so what sense does it make to spend any amount of time putting energy into things that don't make us feel good? Don't...

My daughter and I got caught in the rain the other day. It was windy, freezing cold, and I felt miserable. I have a condition called "cold urticaria" where my skin breaks out in painful hives when I'm exposed to cold weather. Yes, it's terrible. My daughter was having a good ole' time jumping in puddles and  site seeing. I, on the other hand, just wanted to hurry and get home. I said to her, "Can you walk faster and stop acting like it's warm and sunny out here!?". She smiled at me and said "It's warm and sunny to me." That comment melted my heart and made me feel silly at the same time. I love when my daughter unknowingly helps shift my perspective. Lesson: Even though a situation may not seem ideal, you can choose  to make the best of it. If you don't, try not stop other people from doing so!