The Narcissist trend - Unpopular opinion (Disclaimer at the end)
The term "narcissist" is overused. This word is being thrown around so carelessly. Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a real mental disorder and many people do suffer from it.
But..
The average everyday ass hole is not a narcissist.
The person who cut you off on the expressway this morning is not a narcissist.
Your best friend who posts tons of selfies on Facebook is not a narcissist.
Your ex partner who cheated on you is not narcissist.
Many people try to "diagnose" other people with NPD because it gives them comfort. It's relieving to find a label for your pain. However, just because things don't go your way, or people don't behave the way you want them to behave, does not make them a narcissist. The amount of people who are choosing to make themselves victims because they've been introduced to this word is alarmingly increasing. Your ex may have been selfish, but to be a narcissist, you have to score pretty high on the spectrum.
Something else I've noticed around this whole #SurvivingANarcissist trend is that people who claim to be victims put a large amount of their energy into the suspected narcissist. They go on a never ending "healing journey" where they seem to never make any progress. They constantly post quotes about the situation. They even encourage others to prolong the "healing process", that way they can all identify with being victims, for years... How fun!
There are real people in the world suffering from NPD and there are real victims who are seriously traumatized by those people. It can be offensive for them to see people throwing this word around without having proper knowledge of what it actually means. If being selfish, making mistakes, or putting yourself first makes you a narcissist, then we ALL have NPD.
I encourage you to take accountability for your own life. I know it hurts, but you deserve to move on. If you're going to give someone a label, label them "The past" and never worry about them again! Throw away the victim mentality. Choose to do better and be happy. Who doesn't want to be mentally and emotionally free?
Disclaimer: This blog is to bring awareness to how people are blatantly misusing this mental diagnoses. It is not intended to offend people who are actual victims of narcissistic abuse.
But..
The average everyday ass hole is not a narcissist.
The person who cut you off on the expressway this morning is not a narcissist.
Your best friend who posts tons of selfies on Facebook is not a narcissist.
Your ex partner who cheated on you is not narcissist.
Many people try to "diagnose" other people with NPD because it gives them comfort. It's relieving to find a label for your pain. However, just because things don't go your way, or people don't behave the way you want them to behave, does not make them a narcissist. The amount of people who are choosing to make themselves victims because they've been introduced to this word is alarmingly increasing. Your ex may have been selfish, but to be a narcissist, you have to score pretty high on the spectrum.
Something else I've noticed around this whole #SurvivingANarcissist trend is that people who claim to be victims put a large amount of their energy into the suspected narcissist. They go on a never ending "healing journey" where they seem to never make any progress. They constantly post quotes about the situation. They even encourage others to prolong the "healing process", that way they can all identify with being victims, for years... How fun!
There are real people in the world suffering from NPD and there are real victims who are seriously traumatized by those people. It can be offensive for them to see people throwing this word around without having proper knowledge of what it actually means. If being selfish, making mistakes, or putting yourself first makes you a narcissist, then we ALL have NPD.
I encourage you to take accountability for your own life. I know it hurts, but you deserve to move on. If you're going to give someone a label, label them "The past" and never worry about them again! Throw away the victim mentality. Choose to do better and be happy. Who doesn't want to be mentally and emotionally free?
Disclaimer: This blog is to bring awareness to how people are blatantly misusing this mental diagnoses. It is not intended to offend people who are actual victims of narcissistic abuse.
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